You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



It is very important that you are present in the session.

Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

So what would help to get you into that space

Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

 I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

 I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Yes

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     I'm afraid I have...

  • Why does the session only last 50 minutes. -

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    What I am hoping is that...

  • How strict will time-keeping be during any sessions? -

     I'm afraid I have...

  • Why does the session only last 50 minutes. -

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     I am a huge...

  • Why Doesn't your website have any feedback from other clients, testimonials, recommendations etc? -

    What I am hoping is that...

  • How strict will time-keeping be during any sessions? -

     I'm afraid I have...

  • Why does the session only last 50 minutes. -

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    This list can be endless....

  • The amount you charge per session is significantly lower than other services that are on offer. Does this in any way reflect the quality of support you are offering? -

     I am a huge...

  • Why Doesn't your website have any feedback from other clients, testimonials, recommendations etc? -

    What I am hoping is that...

  • How strict will time-keeping be during any sessions? -

     I'm afraid I have...

  • Why does the session only last 50 minutes. -

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

    It is very important that...

  • What kind of issues can be helped by sessions with you? -

    This list can be endless....

  • The amount you charge per session is significantly lower than other services that are on offer. Does this in any way reflect the quality of support you are offering? -

     I am a huge...

  • Why Doesn't your website have any feedback from other clients, testimonials, recommendations etc? -

    What I am hoping is that...

  • How strict will time-keeping be during any sessions? -

     I'm afraid I have...

  • Why does the session only last 50 minutes. -

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

     This service is...

  • You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean? -

    It is very important that...

  • What kind of issues can be helped by sessions with you? -

    This list can be endless....

  • The amount you charge per session is significantly lower than other services that are on offer. Does this in any way reflect the quality of support you are offering? -

     I am a huge...

  • Why Doesn't your website have any feedback from other clients, testimonials, recommendations etc? -

    What I am hoping is that...

  • How strict will time-keeping be during any sessions? -

     I'm afraid I have...

  • Why does the session only last 50 minutes. -

    The time you are actually...

  • I am unsure about engaging in phone counselling so is there any way to have a trial session to see if this will work for me or to see if I feel I can work with you. -

    I would in fact suggest...

  • I would like to record the sessions. Do you have an issue with this, and do I need your permission to do so? -

     I would absolutely...

  • Do you offer guidance in any way? -

    Definitely yes. But only...

  • You don’t describe yourself as a therapist, or counsellor, and yet these terms are being used all across this website? -

    Yes, I’m sorry about...

  • Do you ever share information about yourself in any way? I have spoken to people in the past where it feels very one-sided and they came across as very guarded and would not share anything about themselves. -

    Yes I do when I feel that...

  • What will we be speaking about during these sessions -

     The content of the...

  • Do you just sit there and listen to me talk about myself, or is there more to it than that? -

    And sometimes there...

  • I don’t want to get bombarded by emails, and I certainly don’t want any pressure to book sessions with you. What will I get from you if I register on this site -

    Yes I will but the...

  • I have spoken to people in the past and end up feeling worse afterwards. Is it possible to prevent this, or how would you suggest managing this if there is no alternative. -

     Unfortunately...

  • You say things to me, and then I go and talk about the same stuff with my family and friends and they say the complete opposite. What on earth is going on? Who do I listen to…. -

    And this is so often the...

  • Do I need to have any other kind of support to help me -

    We often talk about...

  • I am feeling suicidal and people struggle to speak to me because of this. Would this be a problem for you. -

    Not at all. Throughout my...

  • I'm having difficulties with getting services from my GP, mental health services etc. would you be prepared to write a report on my behalf or intercede on my behalf -

    The answer to this is no....

  • I find it very overwhelming whenever I talk about the issues in my life. It can be emotionally distressing and I feel very vulnerable and fragile at the time. Can you assure me that you will be gentle and responsive and not just keep trying to tell me what to do as most people have in the past. -

    Yes

    Actually this is one of...

  • My life feels like it's overwhelming and I just want to talk about all of the problems that I have. I just need someone to listen. -

    That is absolutely fine...

  • How does somebody like you cope with constantly hearing about other people's lives, their pain, their problems. Doesn’t this get to you after a while? -

    No….because as you...

  • What comeback do I have if I feel that the time I've spent talking to you has not been useful and I have not achieved what I expected. Is there somebody to complain to, or can I get a refund? -

    I do not offer any kind...

  • I am experiencing a very difficult time and struggling with my emotions and suicidal thoughts etc. Can I make contact with you whenever I need to, to help me through these times. -

     I'm afraid this is...

  • How the mental health services work today..or don’t in many cases.. -

    Many people are having to...

  • What if I don’t want regular sessions. I may want a few, then break, and pick up when it suits down the line, would this be ok?? -

    Whatever suits you is how...

    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

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    You need to create protected time. This means that the time you are going to be spending speaking to me should be free of interruptions, distractions etc. What does this actually mean?



    It is very important that you are present in the session.

    Part of this is having your head in the right space to begin with, and by this I mean as far as possible, focussing your attention on the session itself, what we are going to talk about, processing what has been said in previous sessions, having thoughts, questions, Ideas, essentially, anything that can contribute towards the session itself.

    But for many of us, doing this is, in itself quite difficult, particularly when our heads are already full of a combination of the consciousness of day to day life, and for many people, the pressing thoughts about their problems, issues, and often intrusive thoughts about specific experiences.

    So what would help to get you into that space

    Having phones turned on, message’s pinging, or children popping in and out because they want things is never going to be a way to engage successfully, so try to find somewhere where these will not intrude, have someone else look after the kids, or do whatever else you need to do in order to have time and space without the normal distractions that life always brings.

     I would strongly recommend that you have some time before the session where you can prepare, get yourself into the right mental space for the session, and possibly think about the things that you want to be speaking about. 

    And then having a period of time after the session where you're in a position to process and go over what has been spoken about, perhaps write down thoughts, feelings, or anything that has come up that seems important. This will allow you to spend time between sessions, perhaps thinking about what is being spoken about, processing, making sense of, which may then lead to being aware of where the next session may need to focus. In the end it hopefully becomes a bit of a loop, where the stuff being thought about and processed after one session then forms part of the material for the next.

    Both of these are important parts of fully engaging in the process, and not allowing distractions to interfere with that. It may initially be hard to create this kind of space, but as with most things, it should become easier over time, and be well worth it in the long run.

    If you're not in a position to create time and space like this, I would suggest that you delay until you can make that kind of commitment.

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