reasonably priced phone support for mental health
reasonably priced phone support for mental health
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Yes
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
It is very important that...
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
This service is...
It is very important that...
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…
This service is...
It is very important that...
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Definitely yes. But only if it's appropriate to do so.
And why….because everyone can make better or different choices if they’re better informed………but they always have to be your choices
There are many times when people come to sessions with a very clear idea about what is happening in their lives, causing them pain, and not the slightest idea about how to actually deal with it, or change how they think, act, see the world etc.
And most people, through no fault of their own, can have limited emotional awareness, and this is usually based upon their own life experience, being around other people, families, and things you learn from them.
A so called person centred approach would encourage people to draw upon their own knowledge, experience and resources to guide them towards finding the solutions in their life.
To me, that’s like driving your car, taking your hands off the wheel at 60 mph, and hoping the car knows how to find its own way. It won’t
Or to take your car to the garage, and then tell them exactly how to fix it.
So many people do actually want guidance, they want someone to help untangle the world they inhabit, help them to see things from a different perspective, develop new ideas, and in a very literal sense, to make sense of their world.
Because if we could do all of that ourselves, no one would be even reading this, and people like me would cease to exist.
Before seeking out any form of counselling, or therapy, most people have tried their hardest to resolve their own issues, sought the help and support of the people they know, maybe even read a book or two, or checked out stuff online. And it may have helped….but not quite enough..
And you can never know what you don’t know, and how do you start searching for answers when you don’t even know what questions to start asking…
I’ve worked with thousands of people, and heard the in-depth stories of thousands more. Over time you see how patterns of thinking, behaviour and action develop. At the same time, I have questioned, and learned, and developed understanding, and hopefully a set of skills to help people navigate their world.
You start to understand things, develop knowledge, and learn how to use it effectively.
You understand how incredibly hard it is for most people to actually work on changing themselves in any way….because it's simply not part of their way of thinking, or functioning.
And you get to see how rigid and fixed the majority of people think.
This is not a criticism, it’s simply how the majority of people learn to function effectively in the world.
Most of what we do, we essentially drive on autopilot, and it’s only when we reach obstacles that we have to actively think about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and maybe start choosing to adapt and change if need be.
But you can’t just tap into a wealth of knowledge and experience THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD!!
So, yes, I hope that I can draw on that knowledge and experience
And yes, that means that I will offer guidance, and perhaps guide you towards things you don’t know or understand….yet! And sometimes the guidance is reflecting back your world, and clarifying the choices you may need to make
In one of the pen picture I described
There was a point that I felt it was important for the person to understand
So I tried to lead them down a path that could lead to that….because you can’t explain stuff……people have to get it themselves, through their own understanding.
It didn’t work, so I tried coming from a different angle
And again the next session
About 4 or 5 times in total, then, out of the blue, I’m trying again…..
And they say….”I get it……now I see what you were trying to tell me…all those other times”
Because it all suddenly made sense, as did every other time I’d tried a different path
And it was worth it…..and yes, it helped…