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Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
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That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
It is very important that...
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
This service is...
It is very important that...
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.
This service is...
It is very important that...
This list can be endless....
I am a huge...
What I am hoping is that...
I'm afraid I have...
The time you are actually...
I would in fact suggest...
I would absolutely...
Definitely yes. But only...
Yes, I’m sorry about...
Yes I do when I feel that...
The content of the...
And sometimes there...
Yes I will but the...
Unfortunately...
And this is so often the...
We often talk about...
Not at all. Throughout my...
The answer to this is no....
Yes
Actually this is one of...
That is absolutely fine...
No….because as you...
I do not offer any kind...
I'm afraid this is...
Many people are having to...
Whatever suits you is how...
Yes, I’m sorry about the confusion, however the concepts of counselling and therapy are universally understood to some degree……
People would generally perceive the role of a counsellor, and have a concept that you talk to a therapist to try to sort out your problems.
I use these terms because people can make sense of them, and to some degree they can be interchangeable. And because what I offer has elements of both, and hopefully more.
Few people would have any real idea about what a therapist actually does, and can make informed choices about what kind of therapy or support would actually be helpful to them.
For instance, the majority would quite reasonably believe that a psychiatrist allows you to describe your problem to them, and are effectively at the pinnacle of the therapies being offered. This is the image portrayed by the media. It has absolutely no basis in reality. *(1)
For many, that understanding only comes when you actually engage with, and have contact with a therapist / counsellor / psychiatrist.
And for many that do, there is often little concept of the mode of therapy being engaged in, why should there be. It needs to be effective, you don’t necessarily need to understand the process
You trust the mechanic to have the knowledge and skills to get your car fixed, and so you should……
So I adapt to what people seem to need, and adapt when that changes over time:-
Some people want to talk
Some want to explore
Some actually want guidance in some form
Some want to look very deeply into their world, and make sense of it
But the majority just want to find the way out of a bad place, feelings they don’t want, lives that seem out of their control
And to regain stability and the ability to carry on living
I take a real life approach, we talk about your life, your experiences, your world view and how you experience, and make sense of all of these.
And perhaps explore looking at ways of seeing the world, and how you can experience it when you use different filters.
There are so many effective ways of working with people. The key to it is exactly that….to be effective!!
As stated elsewhere, there is no one size fits all. To help you the person needs to be flexible, and able to adapt to what the situation may require.
Think of the numerous roles that can be taken on by your parents, friends, teachers, and what they offer to you at different times…..guidance, support, questioning, encouraging, challenging, describing, modelling, ways of being and thinking, bank, role model, chauffeur, social secretary, and dance partner….and so so many more. In other words, every relationship adapts over time, and becomes what it needs to be in the moment.
That’s what good therapy will always be….something that adapts and moulds itself to whatever is needed, and is effective. And this is likely to be very different for every person
An example, not a good one……
A friend was having counselling through a service provided by his employer
He told me in a very frustrated manner that
“They keep trying to get me to talk about my childhood!! I put all that to rest a long time ago…..”
*(1) Psychiatrists spend all of their time evaluating people to see where they fit into a very prescriptive “medical model”, and the majority will treat people by adjusting their medication, not by talking to them to get to the root of their problems. They diagnose, and they treat. This has its role in mental health, but is only ever part of a very bigger picture. Very few are trained to, and will deliver actual therapy. They normally refer people to others to provide that.